you obviously haven't been hanging with the right guysPratham wrote:a good jumping off point
i'll file this under "phrases not to use while talking to guys with low self esteem"
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I told them that but do you honestly think they care? And the fields are filled with shit engineers who graduated with 2.0 GPA's.Pratham wrote: You can try telling him that you'd be a shit engineer with a shit job because you have zero interest in that field.
Or your can try pipe method? You listen from one ear and let it out from another. Don't let it reach your brain.
I live with them so it's just worse for me.the_red_ninja wrote: And that's why I do not talk to my parents. We're on a "need to know" basis.
It's so dumb. I can't even have small victories. Like I find a little part time job to do while job searching so I can earn money, I get shit for that because it's not right by home.
I'm getting more job interview calls now since I have work experience and moving onto round 2 of the process. But no I can't take a little bit of pride in that because apparently it's the bare minimum and everyone gets interview calls.
And I hate the entitlement mentality they are trying to push on me. I changed my degree to marketing in my junior year, so I couldn't get any internships at all. Naturally it was tough for me to get a marketing job because I had no experience at all. So of course I have to do internships now to get that experience before getting that full time 9-to-5 job. Like why do they expect me to get a job paying $50k with benefits right out of college? The whole situation is just stupid as hell and honestly just so degrading to whatever small achievements I make.
^I guess it's just something you have to accept and try grow a thicker skin, not let stuff like this get to you, because I honestly don't see any other way out of this, it's not like your parents will wake up one day and realize how hard they're being on you, and if they ever do - yay! But they probably have to come to this conclusion by themselves, because if you were to try "reeducate" them all the time, you'll just waste your own time and well being.
Getting a thicker skin feels like it's impossible to do because I live with them. And no matter what the conversation is, my shortcomings are almost always brought up. Or they try to bring it up by talking about other people's bastards.Ruth wrote:^I guess it's just something you have to accept and try grow a thicker skin, not let stuff like this get to you, because I honestly don't see any other way out of this, it's not like your parents will wake up one day and realize how hard they're being on you, and if they ever do - yay! But they probably have to come to this conclusion by themselves, because if you were to try "reeducate" them all the time, you'll just waste your own time and well being.
It's just a frustrating situation. I'm already cutting down on the amount of time I spend with them or talk to them. And it's the holiday season...I hate that they're at home from work more.
i dont know how much you've specifically told them about how the things that they do make you feel but that needs to be conveyed fully. talking can be hard but it's fine to write it in a letter and give it to them. it wont be fun to confront them but if all you're asking for is respect you automatically have the winning argument cause you do deserve it, obviously.
Yeah she was craving for my unresolved childhood trauma so desperately that I just ripped off all my insecurities and rammed my depression into her compassionate demeanor. She had me in a really vulnerable position while she gently rubbed all of that messy self-hatred out of me. Totally swallowed every single drop of my emotional honesty too. Then when it was her turn, I ate up all of her incredibly helpful advice. All of it. She was so good at it, by the end I was begging for more. It was only $100 and I'm thinking about seeing her again.